In Hawaii, on the Big Island just south of Kona is the City of Refuge, known as Puuhonua O Honaunau. This, like all of my other travel INSPIREd blogs, is linked with my travel blog: Puuhonua O Honaunau, please feel free to click on the link to read more about this beautiful place.
In ancient times, Puuhonua O Honaunau was the place where those who had broken laws could go to be forgiven and to avoid death. Today, you may visit Pu’uhonua o Hōnaunau National Historical Park, and still feel the spirit of peace and forgiveness that continues to surround and bless this special place. Today, it’s a place where people go to ponder what needs to be released in their lives.
Walking around one gets the sense that this was a place of new beginnings and of forgiveness with coconut palms scattered throughout and the ocean softly lapping along the rocky shore, Pu’uhonua o Honaunau is tranquil, peaceful, and welcoming.
Seeking Forgiveness at Puuhonua O Honaunau
Puuhonua O Honaunau is a place where people went for a second chance at life, to ask for refuge and forgiveness; a place to forgive and be forgiven to be given a second chance at life. I think when we ask for forgiveness from others and truly forgive others and ourselves, we give ourselves a second chance at life, too.
It seems to me that forgiveness and reconciliation was an important part of ancient Hawaiian practice- from cities of refuge to meditations of forgiveness and reconciliation, the Hawaiians could see the importance in forgiveness, repentance, gratitude and love for a happy and healthy life.
And immediately upon arrival at this sacred site, having some knowledge and experience of ho’oponopono, I recognised that it would be a wonderful spot to practice the Hawaiian ritual of ho’oponopono.
Have you ever heard of Ho’oponopono? Probably not. In fact, I hadn’t heard of it either until a friend of mine who I sometimes meditate with suggested that I try it out. I started doing this practice just before visiting Hawaii. Ho’oponopono is the ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. Ho’oponopono means ‘to make’ (ho’o) ‘right’ (pono) ‘right’ (pono), and its practice allows people to harmoniously re-align with themselves, others and the universe. According to the Hawaiian worldview, ho’oponopono is a forgiveness and reconciliation practice whereby you cleanse ‘errors of thought’ (which, the ancient Hawaiians believed, is the origin of problems and sickness in the physical world).
Obviously, you do not need to travel to Hawaii to practice Ho’oponopono, as you can do this meditation anywhere. Ho’oponopono uses the steps of repentance, forgiveness, gratitude, and love to put things in right order with another.
Ho’oponopono can help restore harmony within, and with others
There are four simple steps to this method, and the order is not that important. Repentance, Forgiveness, Gratitude and Love.
For Ho’oponopono to work you don’t need anyone else to be there and you don’t need anyone to hear you; you can just do it yourself. You can “say” the words in your head. The power is in the feeling and in the willingness of the Universe to forgive, feel gratitude, repent, and love.
Today, I will guide you through just one way that you can use these 4 phrases in your mediation practice to help bring about forgiveness, love and therefore, healing from within. I recommend that you start to practice this method on your more obvious problems until you start to see results. In a later post, I will discuss how it may be used to bring about forgiveness, love and therefore harmony with others.
Before you begin:
Whenever you do inner work, you should always begin by relaxing the body and mind by breathing deeply. Try sit or lying in a comfortable position either inside or out in nature, closing down the eyes or darken the room if inside, taking a few deep breaths and just feel yourself start to relax. You might also like to try a tension and release technique if you cannot relax.
Step 1: Repentance- I’M SORRY
To start with, choose something that you already know you’ve caused for yourself: Are you unhealthily over-weight? Have an addiction? Do you suffer from anger issues? Are overly negative or judgemental? Or maybe you have a serious health problem? Whatever! Think of something that you would like to work on changing in your life and focus on that.
Start there and say you’re sorry. That’s the whole step: “I’M SORRY”. Say it, believe it, and feel it; actually feel remorseful, the more you feel it the more real it is. If you feel the need to make it clearer or that actually stating the issue and how sorry you are will make it more powerful, you could say something like: “I realise that I am responsible for the (issue) in my life and I feel extremely remorseful that something in my consciousness has caused this.” (or something to that effect).
Step 2: Ask Forgiveness- PLEASE FORGIVE ME
Don’t worry about who you’re asking. Just ask! “PLEASE FORGIVE ME”. Say it over and over and mean it. Remember your remorse from step 1 as you ask to be forgiven. Again, say it, believe it, and feel it.
Step 3: Gratitude- THANK YOU
Again, it doesn’t really matter who or what you’re thanking, just say “THANK YOU”. It could be to your body for all it does for you or to yourself for being the best you can be. Thank the Universe. Thank God (if that is part of your belief system). Thank whatever it was that just forgave you. Just keep saying THANK YOU. Say it, believe it, and feel it.
Step 4: Love- I LOVE YOU
This could also be step 1 (and in other variations of this practice, you may like to use this as your first step). Say “I LOVE YOU”. Say it to your body, say it to Universe, say it to God. Say I LOVE YOU to your challenges. Say it over and over again. Mean it. Feel it. There is nothing more powerful than love.
That’s it. The whole practice in a nutshell. While it is simple, it is amazingly effective.
Once you start to see changes, you can try this practice for different purposes. If you enjoyed this meditation, keep following for more to come on this beautiful and powerful practice.
Returning to Puuhonua O Honaunau
Puuhonua O Honaunau is one of the places you absolutely must visit on the Big Island. The feeling of spirit is very powerful here and the reminder of the importance of forgiveness and love is an important message for all.
While I was there enjoying the sunset and practicing ho’oponopono, I experienced a surreal but illuminating moment. With the clouds rolling in, suddenly the entire sky turned dark, momentarily blocking all light. Then, just as quickly as it had turned dark, the light shone through lighting up the whole sky once again. It was in that illuminating moment that I was reminded that light will always rise above. Light doesn’t have to fight the darkness because light turns the darkness into light just by illuminating it. With repentance, forgiveness, gratitude and love, we are that light illuminating the darkness.
Aloha from Hawaii.
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